Life often throws unexpected challenges our way, leaving an indelible mark on our emotional and psychological well-being. Traditionally, trauma has been defined as an emotional response to a “terrible” experience, encompassing incidents like violence, assault, or natural disasters. However, the intricate web of human emotions reveals that trauma is profoundly personal, influenced by factors that don’t neatly align with any objective measurement of “terrible.”

The scope of traumatic experiences varies widely. A person may carry the weight of trauma resulting from a car accident, an illness, or a sexual assault. Moreover, trauma can stem from less conventionally recognized sources, such as an upsetting parental experience, a moment of intense fear, or witnessing the trauma endured by others. Childhood, with its inherent vulnerability, is a breeding ground for experiences that may later be perceived as traumatic, as we grapple with learning to navigate and process the world around us.

Trauma is Not a Competition: Recognizing the Validity of Individual Experiences

A critical aspect of addressing trauma is acknowledging that it is not a competition. The mental health journey isn’t about comparing the severity of one person’s trauma to another’s; rather, it centers on understanding how deeply these experiences resonate within an individual. Unfortunately, many individuals grapple with past traumas but hesitate to seek help, convinced that their experiences pale in comparison to what others have endured.

Personal Trauma


Within the domain of mental health, evaluations are not predicated on the objective gravity of an occurrence, but rather on its effect on the person involved. Regardless of the severity of the trauma (significant life-altering event, ostensibly inconsequential childhood incidents, etc.), its enduring impact on an individual’s self-esteem, confidence, happiness, and relationships renders it of the utmost importance.


Self-deprecating the gravity of personal trauma through the attempt to persuade oneself that it is “not as bad as others” is detrimental to one’s mental health. The essence of the matter is the personal repercussions of these experiences and the challenges that individuals encounter during their trauma therapy process as they strive for recovery and self-exploration.

The Uniqueness of Trauma: Each Story Worthy of Attention

Every individual’s narrative is unique, and trauma manifests itself differently in each story. One might be profoundly affected by seemingly minor incidents, like hurtful words uttered during childhood, while another might grapple with the enduring repercussions of more conventionally recognized traumatic events. In the realm of mental health, the emphasis is on the person and their journey rather than on comparative judgments.

Recognizing the intricacies of trauma requires a shift in perspective. It is about valuing oneself enough to seek support, regardless of the perceived magnitude of the trauma. Acknowledging that one’s mental health is a priority and seeking therapy can be a transformative step towards unveiling the resilience within.

Psychotherapy as a Path to Healing: Embracing Your Intrinsic Worth

The journey to healing begins with recognizing one’s intrinsic worth and understanding that comparing traumas serves no purpose. Whether it’s a seemingly small incident from childhood or a larger-than-life event, the impact on an individual’s mental health is what matters most.

At Resilient Mind Psychotherapy in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, NY, we believe in the inherent worth of every individual. Our therapists are dedicated to helping you discover and embrace your unique value. If you find yourself grappling with trauma, PTSD, or any lingering issues from your past, regardless of how you define them, our doors are open. Contact us today, because you deserve a journey towards healing and a rediscovery of your best self.